Love on the Journey

2012-02-03T13:45:00.000+02:00

Ralph Waldo Emerson said “Lifeis a journey, not a destination”. A wise man old Ralph. However, what Ralph didnot mention was the little and bigger things that happen on our journey oflife. One of these is love. Bookshave been written on it, songs sang about it, and some have even died for it. Butwhat is it, and how dangerous is this road?

The Christian Bible says thatlove is from God and to love someone means to be patient, kind, without envy orpride. Love is honest, not self-seeking, nor easily angered. Love ALWAYSprotects, trusts, hopes and perseveres. When you look at what love is, or oughtto be, then to navigate this road of love is not an easy task. Many confuselove with that feeling of elation that we have when we “fall in love” for thefirst time. That is not love… lust maybe, but definitely not love. If we look at what the Bible says,then love is caring in action, not what we feel,but what we do.

The road of love is a difficultone to travel, but still we search, we find, we love and we hurt. It is a roadwith many potholes, bridges to cross, u-turns, and generally like an off-roadDakar Rally where you are driver and navigator. Still, love is a road manyfollow and those who feel the road is not for them still yearn for it. Most ofus struggle in keeping our car on the road and not crash and burn. Sometimesthe road is so bumpy that we put armour around and fear the worst. We changeand become hard. Then we meet someone again on this road and slowly but surely,the armour comes down. With acts of love a person can change you again into theloving being you are meant to be. This is all normal for us as mere mortals.Though love is from God, we cannot expect to be faultless and perfect. Westumble and fall, we get angry and sometimes we don’t trust. Still, youractions will show that you love and are loved.

These acts are not difficult atall. It is not the elaborated gifts or notions. Acts of love are subtle andmean more than diamonds and gold. Here are a few hints from www.mysuperchargedlife.com on actsof love:

Sit onthe same piece of furniture together when watching television.

Stop onthe way home from work and buy a favourite treat.

Kissyour partner when you leave or enter a room.

Callthem at work just to say “hello”.

ALWAYSask how their day was, even if you don’t want to listen.

Compromise:Give up a day of sport to spend time with her. Ladies, give up that somethingspecial to be with him. Remember, men need quality time just as much as we do.

Goshopping with her.

Read abook together and discuss it.

Createa special playlist of romantic songs for your partner.

Sendflower GUYS!!

Buybiltong GIRLS!!

Writeyour partner a love note.

Tellyour partner that he/she looks good.

Go fora walk together.

Light acandle at supper.

Communicate!!

There are many more subtle, yetpowerful acts you can practise to make your lovego the extra mile and survive the bumpy road on your journey. And neverforget that love is not a feeling, itis “caring in action”.

Blog Renovations

2012-01-18T12:19:00.004+02:00

For those of you who know who I am, know that I have been writing in my blog since 2009. I dabbled in blogging with various topics, but always came back to writing about love, relationships, and life in general here on "Yolande du Plessis". I am in no way abandoning my writing (for those of you who noticed that the archive is missing), merely realigning things and re-evaluating other things.

It is a new year and with a new year comes new ideas. I have completed my Honours in English (I hope - still waiting for final results) and decided that I should take a new lease on my writing and start afresh. I realized that to change, I need to change the posts and decided that I could not keep any of my previous posts in their original state and removed them all. Besides being a bit too personal, the original posts may offend those I interact with on a daily basis.

Writing is what is important to me and I would still like to share my writing with you. I am just making a few changes and looking into new avenues of my craft.

I hope that you will stay tuned until I start posting again.